Just as there's no one right way to order a Starbucks drink (tall blonde roast with half&half for me, though!), there's no one right way to go about fitness. Depending on what coach you talk to, you'll find that different individuals prefer distinct approaches: corrective-focused, plenty of core work, no core work, density training, bodybuilding split, and what have you. I've tried many of them - and for the most part, they will work (albeit to varying extents) so long as you follow them consistently. A lot of self-experimentation and close observation of my clients has gotten me where I am today, where I've been shaping and refining my own approach to fitness.

I've been influenced by many other coaches, no doubt - the likes of whom include Dan John, Bret Contreras, Eric Cressey, and Martin Berkhan - so I guess you could say that my approach is a melange of bits and pieces of each of them, finished off with my own unique flavor of icing. And I can guarantee you that my beliefs regarding the optimal way to train and eat will continue to evolve over the years as science and experience nudge me in the right direction.

Here's the SoheeFit way.

We do individual.

I have my own unique taste preferences and everyday habits and you similarly have your own quirks. Maybe you like intermittent fasting; maybe you can't stand the thought of skipping breakfast. Maybe you can't fathom going a day without bacon. So why should you? The SoheeFit way is not about conforming to a strict set of dietary rules but rather about molding together a method of eating that nestles itself nicely into our way of life. Granted, a steady diet of double-fisting coke in one hand and chocolate in the other will clearly have to be exchanged for something a little healthier, but there's some give and take here. If you hate cooking, then… don't cook. If you can't stand the taste of white fish, it doesn't mean your dreams of becoming fit and lean will never be realized.

"There is no one alive that is you-er than you," says Dr. Seuss. When I first started working with Miss America - back when she was still Miss New York - she was very upfront about telling me that she was easily bored in the gym and needed a good amount of variety in her workout to keep her coming back. Challenge: accepted. I knew that a traditional bodybuilding split would not work for her, nor would straight sets of back squats. So I mixed it up. I gave her supersets, trisets, varying reps - whatever it would take to make sure she had a fun time while still delivering the work that was necessary to bring her the results. (She ended up winning the swimsuit category of the Miss America competition on top of being crowned the 2013 Miss America, for anyone who's wondering.)

The sheet way is your way. (Kind of.)

We do quality. 

The fitness community is full of walking oxymorons. In a quest to become lean and healthy, we witness people cutting out entire food groups because they think that's the only way to shed body fat. As a result, they deprive their bodies of essential nutrients - leading to brittle nails, hair falling out in clumps, pissy attitudes, a drop in libido. What's the point of looking like the epitome of health in your itsy bitsy bikini if your body is screaming otherwise? If your health has been compromised and you've strained your social relationships?

It's not only quality mental that's also important; quality training also counts. Any "coach" can get a client to lose weight by prescribing double cardio sessions and three bites of food a day - it doesn't take a degree to accomplish that. Every movement, every set and every rep serves a purpose with SoheeFit.

We do kindness. 

The SoheeFit way means practicing kindness and compassion with our bodies. We don't cry over spilled milk; we forgive ourselves immediately, assess the situation, and take the necessary measures to ensure that it doesn't happen again. We don't engage in compensatory behavior of any kind - be it extra cardio or severely reduced calories - because we do not believe in punishing ourselves for being human. We make mistakes and we expect them to happen. We put our mental health in front of our physical physiques, and sometimes that means putting a brake on any aesthetic goals while we first fix our broken ties with food.

We do sustainable, patient, and realistic.

Why make the process anymore painful than it needs to? When it comes to living a lean, healthful lifestyle, dieting in general carries a negative connotation. Chicken and broccoli, anyone?

Riddle me this: why would you start off a client on thrice weekly cardio sessions on top of her training if she has just recently embarked on her fitness journey and has plenty of fat to lose? Because at some point, just a few weeks down the road, you're inevitably going to end up adding more cardio in - and then more, then more, and more. Soon you're in daily doubles territory. The only direction you can go is up. So start at zero and sprinkle in the cardio only when deemed necessary.

How much does dieting hurt? As much or as little as you decide. Correct me if I'm wrong, but there's nothing sustainable about spending 8-10 hours in the gym on a weekly basis. Sure, maybe you can keep it up for the first 2 weeks, but when your enthusiasm begins to wane and your joints start to grow cranky, what's going to get your butt through those gym doors?

The way you're eating and exercising today - can you see yourself still doing this a year from now? At SoheeFit, the answer is always a resounding yes.

We do life.

Illnesses happen. Emergencies happen. Traffic and forgotten meals happens.

But making fitness a priority - getting adequate sleep, carving out a few hours a week for 'me' time at the gym, ordering steamed broccoli in lieu of french fires - that is all a choice. Amidst screaming toddlers, traffic violations, girls' nights out, and paying the bills on time, being fit is a choice.

That means that there will be days when you pull into the parking lot 20 minutes before the gym closes for the night and all you can manage is a quick dynamic warmup followed by a few sets of squats before calling it done. That means that maybe you'll have to take a few deep breaths and sip on hot tea when what you really want is a margarita after a particularly grueling day at work. That means that more times than not, there's going to be the temptation to take the easier way out because fitness doesn't always come easy.

We get it. Life happens. But fitness is a proactive choice, and there is power in such a decision. At SoheeFit, we take ownership of our behaviors and realize our true potential if only we dig deep and prod at our boundaries to get to where we've never been before.


Really I just want to show off my jeans. But also I'm promoting Mike Byerly's work - ha! 
Really I just want to show off my jeans. But also I'm promoting Mike Byerly's work - ha!

It's not about trying to be like someone else or become someone you're not. In short, [Tweet "The SoheeFit way means taking every thing about yourself into account to bring out your best you."]

The SoheeFit way extends beyond the realms of strictly fitness and transcends into the mental and emotional forays that embodies who we are.

It's an attitude and a mindset.